Remember the story of The Ugly Duckling?
Many people misinterpret this story. Many think the story is about being ugly and magically becoming beautiful. Many try to apply this inappropriate logic to their lives. Hoping beyond hope that they will one day transform into something better than they are. They miss the true point of this story. The most important part of this story is that the ugly duckling is not a duck. It is a swan that hatched from within a duck's nest. It wasn't ugly and then turned beautiful. It was always beautiful. It wasn't a duck who then turned into a swan. It was always a swan. It just needed to realize this. Once the little swan realized that it was literally a completely different bird, all its duck problems went away. It could be itself freely. It found that it wasn’t ugly after all. It was actually beautiful the whole time! The story is about finding who you really are.
That is the point of this Blog. It's to help you realize that you are already a Beautiful Swan. In order to do that, you must first understand that You Are Not A Duck!
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I know that as a Swan experiencing Duck Life, I must find another Ethereal Swan to be fulfilled in Love. ~ Raine-Skyy Kayyisa
Normally people say that it will all work out in the end. I say it will all work out in the beginning. The end, sounds like it’s over and everything is done. But it never really is. Life just continues on as you develop and achieve new goals and dreams. So for me it is the beginning of a new chapter in my life and the ending of an old one. I am looking forward to everything going right at the beginning. I am getting ready for you baby. I will see you, my Soulmate, at the beginning.
When I first began to think about this topic I was overcome by overwhelmingly negative feelings. Feelings of sadness, anger, despair, frustration and most of all heartbreak.
Let me retrace my steps here. Let’s begin with my current boyfriend. I look at my boyfriend and see that he is not the One. I really like him and he really likes me. We share affection and care about one another. I am happy with most things about him. I am comfortable with marrying him. But the most important thing - true love - is missing. We are not in love. I can’t love someone who doesn’t love me. I can only love when it is reciprocated.
Oh and I do love...! I love a love so beautiful it makes song birds sing. I love my soulmate and soon to be husband. I love him. And...he loves me :-). The only thing is... I do not know him yet. I have not met him. He doesn’t know who I am. I am writing to him now so that he may get to know me. Hey babe...
Getting back to the sadness. When I first began to think about my husband I was distracted by an old story. An old story called heartbreak. Most people have heard of it if not actually read that one (I’m talking about your life, lol!). [Right this second as I write this the chorus of a song on the radio is blasting “Find me somebody to love.” Can anyone say synchronicity?] Anyway, I kept getting distracted by the heartbreak book I thought I threw away. Then I realized that behind all the anger and despair - is love. I told myself that if love is beneath this pain then I would rather feel that. I am living a new story now. All my needs are met. If sadness and frustration are only here to protect my love, then I don’t need them anymore. I choose love.
I calmed my unhappiness and waited for my real feelings to come through. It took a few tries to get it right. I was really out of practice. I asked myself a series of questions to sort through my feelings. I asked myself if I trusted Mr. Heartbreak with my heart and love. Interestingly enough, I said yes at first. Then through the process I discovered that I characterized this person in two distinct ways. One was an aloof person who had negative beliefs about me. The other was a sweet angel who found me amazing. For simplification, let’s call him the ugly duckling and the little swan. I asked myself if I trusted the duckling with my heart. I wasn’t so sure. It took serious brain work to go through this process. Suddenly, a vision came upon me. The mental image came with a message: “What about his whole self?” This change of perspective was powerful in unveiling that his real self is a good person. I came to the conclusion that this good person has never hurt me. He never wanted to and never tried to. Sure, I was hurt by him. Sometimes he even did it on purpose during times when he was unsure of himself. But at his core, he never hurt me. This realization allowed me to see events from the past in a new light. No painful moment or shed teardrop ever happened because his genuine intent was to hurt me. Any negative aspect he showed was not who-he-is.
So from this new perspective I confidently stated, “Yes, I trust him with my heart.” Even though I had been hurt, even though there were bad moments, I trust him. He is trustworthy. I believe he will cherish and protect my heart. I believe that he - as he is today, is a safe place to put my heart. I felt that my love was safe where I had placed it. At this point I felt some release from the negative energy that surrounded my heartbreak book. In fact, the title seemed to have changed. It was blank.
After feeling my love and getting to know it again, I decided to send it to someone new. I took a pen and wrote “Soulmate” across the front of this book (I hope your following that this is a metaphorical book and my newly developed mental technique). I made the choice to consciously embrace my love in full and send it out to my Soulmate at maximum volume.
So I began a new practice. I now give this ridiculously powerful love to my Soulmate. When I feel the need for it to be expressed, he is there to receive it. I own my love! That love is mine. I get to feel it completely when I send it. When it is time he will answer my call. I know this. I know this because I can only love the one who loves me. I already love him because he loves me. The best part about this is that love heals a broken heart.
Swans, I’m talking to you now, I want you to start this practice with me. If you have not already found your soulmate (or whatever term that works for you), begin sending your love to him/her now. Allow yourself to feel that magical emotion. Do this with the understanding that your soulmate feels your call. It is easy to freely love someone when you do not have a limiting definition of who the person is. Notice also that one can be in a relationship and know they are not fulfilled. You do not have to be single to call your soulmate. You just have to be ready to leave the relationship.
Remember this Soulmate. Love does not go away. It can neither be created nor destroyed. I promise to love you as long as you love me. I love you today so I understand that means you love me too. I will make mistakes and I understand that so will you. I don’t expect us to get it right the first time. I expect us to keep trying to get it right every time. Before you get here, I would like to say in advance ...thank you for believing in Swans.
Late at night the same day, after writing much of this, I created a spontaneous audio recorded message to my soulmate and soon to be husband. I will reveal this message right before the beginning. :-)
Normally people say that it will all work out in the end. I say it will all work out in the beginning. The end, sounds like it’s over and everything is done. But it never really is. Life just continues on as you develop and achieve new goals and dreams. So for me it is the beginning of a new chapter in my life and the ending of an old one. I am looking forward to everything going right at the beginning. I am getting ready for you baby. I will see you, my Soulmate, at the beginning.
When I first began to think about this topic I was overcome by overwhelmingly negative feelings. Feelings of sadness, anger, despair, frustration and most of all heartbreak.
Let me retrace my steps here. Let’s begin with my current boyfriend. I look at my boyfriend and see that he is not the One. I really like him and he really likes me. We share affection and care about one another. I am happy with most things about him. I am comfortable with marrying him. But the most important thing - true love - is missing. We are not in love. I can’t love someone who doesn’t love me. I can only love when it is reciprocated.
Oh and I do love...! I love a love so beautiful it makes song birds sing. I love my soulmate and soon to be husband. I love him. And...he loves me :-). The only thing is... I do not know him yet. I have not met him. He doesn’t know who I am. I am writing to him now so that he may get to know me. Hey babe...
Getting back to the sadness. When I first began to think about my husband I was distracted by an old story. An old story called heartbreak. Most people have heard of it if not actually read that one (I’m talking about your life, lol!). [Right this second as I write this the chorus of a song on the radio is blasting “Find me somebody to love.” Can anyone say synchronicity?] Anyway, I kept getting distracted by the heartbreak book I thought I threw away. Then I realized that behind all the anger and despair - is love. I told myself that if love is beneath this pain then I would rather feel that. I am living a new story now. All my needs are met. If sadness and frustration are only here to protect my love, then I don’t need them anymore. I choose love.
I calmed my unhappiness and waited for my real feelings to come through. It took a few tries to get it right. I was really out of practice. I asked myself a series of questions to sort through my feelings. I asked myself if I trusted Mr. Heartbreak with my heart and love. Interestingly enough, I said yes at first. Then through the process I discovered that I characterized this person in two distinct ways. One was an aloof person who had negative beliefs about me. The other was a sweet angel who found me amazing. For simplification, let’s call him the ugly duckling and the little swan. I asked myself if I trusted the duckling with my heart. I wasn’t so sure. It took serious brain work to go through this process. Suddenly, a vision came upon me. The mental image came with a message: “What about his whole self?” This change of perspective was powerful in unveiling that his real self is a good person. I came to the conclusion that this good person has never hurt me. He never wanted to and never tried to. Sure, I was hurt by him. Sometimes he even did it on purpose during times when he was unsure of himself. But at his core, he never hurt me. This realization allowed me to see events from the past in a new light. No painful moment or shed teardrop ever happened because his genuine intent was to hurt me. Any negative aspect he showed was not who-he-is.
So from this new perspective I confidently stated, “Yes, I trust him with my heart.” Even though I had been hurt, even though there were bad moments, I trust him. He is trustworthy. I believe he will cherish and protect my heart. I believe that he - as he is today, is a safe place to put my heart. I felt that my love was safe where I had placed it. At this point I felt some release from the negative energy that surrounded my heartbreak book. In fact, the title seemed to have changed. It was blank.
After feeling my love and getting to know it again, I decided to send it to someone new. I took a pen and wrote “Soulmate” across the front of this book (I hope your following that this is a metaphorical book and my newly developed mental technique). I made the choice to consciously embrace my love in full and send it out to my Soulmate at maximum volume.
So I began a new practice. I now give this ridiculously powerful love to my Soulmate. When I feel the need for it to be expressed, he is there to receive it. I own my love! That love is mine. I get to feel it completely when I send it. When it is time he will answer my call. I know this. I know this because I can only love the one who loves me. I already love him because he loves me. The best part about this is that love heals a broken heart.
Swans, I’m talking to you now, I want you to start this practice with me. If you have not already found your soulmate (or whatever term that works for you), begin sending your love to him/her now. Allow yourself to feel that magical emotion. Do this with the understanding that your soulmate feels your call. It is easy to freely love someone when you do not have a limiting definition of who the person is. Notice also that one can be in a relationship and know they are not fulfilled. You do not have to be single to call your soulmate. You just have to be ready to leave the relationship.
Remember this Soulmate. Love does not go away. It can neither be created nor destroyed. I promise to love you as long as you love me. I love you today so I understand that means you love me too. I will make mistakes and I understand that so will you. I don’t expect us to get it right the first time. I expect us to keep trying to get it right every time. Before you get here, I would like to say in advance ...thank you for believing in Swans.
Late at night the same day, after writing much of this, I created a spontaneous audio recorded message to my soulmate and soon to be husband. I will reveal this message right before the beginning. :-)
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